It's fun to keep score in sports and card games.

But in marriage it puts you and your husband on opposite teams.

There’s a reason you’re keeping a mental tally of all the ways his career comes first. It might be because you believe that if you don’t keep score, you’ll end up doing EVERYTHING–and you’re already doing so much. The problem with keeping score is that it has you working against your husband instead of with him. What if you didn’t have to keep score AND you didn’t have to do everything? Click below for a short video on how to stop keeping score, not do everything, and get on the same team as your husband.

Sara Payne Coaching
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Hi, I’m Sara,

Master Certified Life Coach and wife of a physician.

Anytime I meet another doctor’s wife, I think, ‘Say no more, friend, I totally get you.’

You’ve put your aspirations on hold so that your husband can pursue his.

You’re good at hiding your problems–especially because a lot of people think you shouldn’t have any.

You’ve seen the look that says, “What do you have to complain about? I mean, aren’t you married to a doctor?”

Hi, I'm Sara
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It can be really lonely sometimes.

I remember ping-ponging back and forth between silently resenting how much my husband’s career stole our time with him and guilt, believing I should just be grateful. I often found myself thinking, ‘We did all that…for THIS?!’

I had spent so many years supporting his dreams that I didn’t even know what mine were anymore–I just knew that it wasn’t THIS.

Discovering coaching changed all of that for me.
Things can change for you, too.

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Ready to stop feeling angry at your husband

before he even walks through the door tonight?

Not keeping score doesn’t require you to keep quiet and silently seeth while doing everything on your own. It does help you let go of anger and resentment and focus on solutions instead of scoreboards. It means you make room for working together instead of feeling isolated and alone.

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