Anytime I meet another doctor’s wife, I think, ‘Say no more, sister, I totally get you.’

You’ve put your aspirations on hold so that your husband can pursue his.

You know what it’s like to have people think your life is easier than it really is.

You’ve seen the look that says, “What do you have to complain about? I mean, aren’t you married to a doctor?”

I’m Sara–a certified life coach, mother to four young kids, and wife to Ryan, who is a foot and ankle surgeon.

I’m a lot like you.

I used to spend so much time silently resenting how much my husband’s career stole our time with him. I remember thinking, ‘We spent more than a decade going to school…for THIS?!’

Then I found myself feeling guilty for even thinking that way—after all–so many people are much worse off than me. 

But thinking that way didn’t make me feel better–instead I just felt ashamed that I wasn’t more grateful for my life–which caused me to act testy and frustrated with my kids and my husband–which caused me to feel guilty for being frustrated–and then resentful again toward my husband’s job for making me feel this way–it was a vicious cycle.