Think about how you reacted the last time your husband got defensive. Maybe you said to him, “It would have been really nice if you had come to the soccer game today.” And once you say that, you can see that he puts his guard up. Think about what you did in that situation. If you’re like me, you do one of two things–either try to “fix” it, or get defensive right back. In this podcast, I share with you 5 questions to ask yourself when your husband gets defensive. And none of them have to do with “fixing it” or with getting defensive yourself.

If you haven’t had a chance to listen to Episode 205, I’d highly recommend you doing that. It’s about what to do when YOU feel defensive. You don’t have to listen to them sequentially, but do listen to them both!

Ready to stop feeling angry at your husband

before he even walks through the door at night?

Not keeping score doesn’t require you to keep quiet and silently seeth while doing everything on your own. It does help you let go of anger and resentment and focus on solutions instead of scoreboards. It means you make room for working together instead of feeling isolated and alone.

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About Sara

I’m Sara – a certified life coach and I help the doctor’s wife stop being the
backup dancer to her husband’s career. I help them take care of their brains so they can create the life they’ve been looking forward to since the first year of
medical school.

Episode 206: When Your Husband Gets Defensive